In a perfect world, we would be able to relax any time we found ourselves stressed. (Actually, in a really perfect world, we would not be stressed at all, but we digress...) Alas, anxiety is a daily part of life for many of us more and more these days, and we could all use a little help from time to time. Luckily, there are ways we can help ourselves. 

Put your hand on your heart. Warmth from a hug or touch releases oxytocin, a hormone that generates feelings of well-being and calm. By putting one or two hands on your heart and breathing deeply, you’ll generate oxytocin to help regulate your body’s stress response, and start to feel more centered and calm. 

Massage the back of your head. Similar to a warm touch to your heart, massaging your vagus nerve can release oxytocin and help you feel better. Feel along the back of our skull until you find the spot where your head meets your neck and give it a light massage, paired with a few deep breaths.

Treat your senses. Most of the easiest (and most enjoyable) self-soothing techniques appeal to at least one of our five senses. Think: watching something funny, listening to relaxing music, lighting your favorite candle, or taking a warm bath. Feeling extra stressed? Treat yourself to all of the above. 

Ground yourself. Treat your senses and they’ll treat you back. The next time you feel your head start to spin, remember the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique and list 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. 

Repeat positive affirmations. We’ve talked before about the lasting benefits of positive affirmations, and there’s no better time to practice them than when you need them most. Positive affirmations work best when they are clear, direct, and begin with “I.” Close your eyes and say “I can handle this.” “I am strong.” or anything else you need to hear in that moment.

Above all, self-soothing is about being kind to yourself. So give yourself a break, take your time, and remember all feelings will eventually pass.

𝘈𝘨𝘯𝘦𝘴 𝘗𝘦𝘭𝘵𝘰𝘯 '𝘚𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘚𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘮' (1932) #topofmindCA